When we are in a relationship, it’s inevitable to have a conflict or friction with our spouse. We are, anyway, two different characters, so it’s no wonder that we have different opinion from time to time, depending on the situation. This friction might feel more intense for some people who are married. We might not expect certain kind of conflicts appear before us and our husband or wife, especially because we did not have it when we were still dating him or her.
Anyway, this opening leads us to my story yesterday night. I was quite upset with my hubby since he kept disturbing my sleep. I know it might sound ridiculous, but I’ll still share it anyway 😅
First, he woke me up around 11pm when I was sleeping with Aqmar. His reason? He felt that the AC was too cold and wanted me to somehow make it warmer. I could not turn off the AC because our son used to it alreadg, so I just increased the temperature to 30C (I am not sure if it’s even considered as real temperature in AC). He seemed a bit satisfied, so I decided to go back to sleep.
That’s when he started SINGING. Yes, he was singing while doing his report. During the day, I would not mind to have him singing next to me. BUT IT’S MIDNIGHT AND I WAS TIRED. I asked him nicely, even half-joking, to turn off the “radio”. He did it for a while, before he started singing again, right when I about to fall asleep. I was so upset, but I did not want to argue with him anymore, so I just closed my eyes and put a pillow on top of my head, hoping it would help me to sleep better.
Somehow it worked, and I was sleeping pretty well when he WOKE ME UP AGAIN. This time, he asked me to give him the blanket that I was using to make him warmer. That’s when I became very, very upset. In short, he was aware that I was upset, and got himself another blanket from our room (hah!! ) (we were sleeping at Aqmar’s room by the way). But since I was upset, I did not use anyway the blanket that he returned to me. As a result, I could not sleep, and instead writing this rant.
Now, for some people it might sound like a silly thing to make fuss about, but for me, having a good sleep is important. Being disturbed for trivia things is a big no-no for me, especially when I am pretty tired and just want to have a good rest. In addition, I am a stubborn and expressive person, so I really made sure my husband knew what I was thinking, even with few words.
Though he was also upset with my action, in the morning he apologized to me, and finally realized that his singing was actually disturbing my sleep. It seems that he was truly sorry and would not repeat his mistake, but let’s see if that’s really the case!
In the end, I guess what I want to say is that communication is an important key for a couple to solve any issue. As silly as a problem might be, it is always better to let your spouse knows your feeling about the situation. Then, together we can try to find a solution to make sure the problem solved, and both parties are satisfied (or at least okay-ish).
PS. Please don’t ask about the title. I am very bad on making one, so I’ll keep this one for now 😂